Dealing with jealously!

You and your friends might be said to be as close as ‘sisters’, but when you are dealing with a jealous friendship, even the strongest bonds are tested. Irrational jealousy can cripple a relationship, fortunately, most jealousy issues can be resolved if both friends want to preserve the relationship. These are some useful advice you may consider:


Find the root of the jealous 

There is always a reason / root of you feeling jealous, of which only you know. It may be a feeling that you are not as good as your friend or a fear that you have lesser qualities as compared to your friend. Whatever the cause, knowing the root of your jealousy would make it easier for you to deal with it as you are able to recognize the problem and tackling it would be less of a problem.


You are the reason they are jealous

You may notice that your friends are always telling you how jealous they are of you / your belongings. You might want to talk to them and discuss about it openly as this might turn out to be an issue in your friendship with time to come. Also, you can try to change the focus on them by building them up, complementing them about their successes and cheering them on. Try to put yourself in your friend’s shoes to further understand them and deal with the problem of jealousy.


Talk it out

Talking it out with your friend would help clear things out and smoothen the friendship. You might decide on bringing it up during lunch or your free time and talk to her in private. Be honest and tell her how you feel however does remember to be polite and mindful of the words you use. After you’ve finish, do allow her to express her thoughts as well. Together, you two can come up of ways to reduce the feeling of jealousy with compromising but mostly importantly, satisfaction and agreement from both parties. Let this matter strengthen your friendship and bring both of you closer. 


– clarice 


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